Relationships, Careers, and Friends= Balance?

I told myself to write this blog a few days ago, but I'm so damn scattered brained at times. That being said, hopefully you'll be able to pick up where I was trying to go with it.


When you grow up, you have to find a great career, get married, have kids, and buy that house with the picket fences. I forget, you have to maintain an equilibrium with other aspects of your life. Is this equally possible?

I know right off the bat, you're thinking "Hell yes it's possible to balance all of them", however I beg to differ. With only 24 hours in a day, seven days in a week that doesn't leave much time for; showering, commuting, work, lunch, clocking out, working out, dinner, and spending time with your significant other. This is the assumption that there are no kids in your life right now. From my firsthand experience, I started to realize early that people started to focus their time on other "aspects" of their lives, and while I focused on trying to "hang out" all the time, people had their own personal agendas. I began to realize that the agendas for the most part didn't include my personal desires. Childhood friends began to have kids, people went off to college, and the military, and (insert other ambitions here).

I, too , was wrapped up in life and figuring things out, however,there was this one part of me that wanted to hold on to the days of yore when we didn't have any major responsibilities. I'll admit, I became frustrated at times. For the most part, there weren't any mutual friends where significant other's could join together, as people began to venture out and find new faces in different places to date. Now lets fast forward to my mid 20's. Regarding careers, some of us are lucky to find a career early that we could see ourselves in forever. But, most of us, that's not the case. It's probably not until you hit your mid-30's that you settle into your career. Now, back to relationships. I began to invest in post-high school long term relationships that required commitment, time, and patience; all which are consuming. In the meantime,I started becoming M.I.A like they did. I realized that I had not spoken to ( insert name) in X amount of weeks , even in the day of technology and social networks, etc. It seems nearly impossible at times to balance it all, and I have never since my days of seriously dating found myself spreading the time equally. Even when attempted to, it was confirmed that while I was trying to keep living those youthful times, people were keeping it pushing with their significant others. Perhaps they figure while your friends will always be around, what's MOST important is your significant other and working to build your own nest.

As I age, I constantly have these thoughts like, as much as I love my friends and family members, who's going to be there for me when I come home from having a bad day? I can't come home to my friends for many reasons, some aforementioned. Even family member fit into the category, because they are busy do them too. When your friends get older and have to make life decisions that effect their personal lives, are they going to make a decision considering your feelings? Or are they going to think about feeding their kids, paying bills, and buying that new car? This isn't high school anymore where people transfer to be with friends, and/or attend the same college. This is life! It was a hard pill for me to swallow, and I still at times don't want to fully digest it, but the saying goes something like, "Get to living YOUR life". And, as we get older that mostly pertains to building something special with a significant other, and investing in your future.

The Next Hard Copy *pause* I will buy is R. Les...

Love this song, still!

Jazmine Sullivan - Lions, Tigers & Bears

I needed this laugh today

Imagine this commercial airing in the U.S.

In today's Barack News!!

Lately, it seems that now since President Obama has officially become our Commander and Chief, there's been a lot of discussions about people claiming racial ownership of the man. In a forum that I frequent, I found this interesting article. Take a read, shall you.

Obama's Bob Marley effect

By Dr. Kwame Nantambu
November 09, 2008




Barack Obama

One of the hidden, unnoticed and unsung variables in the recently concluded United States Presidential elections was the Bob Marley effect in Senator Barack Obama's run for the United States presidency and his awesome victory.

Robert "Bob" Nestor Marley and Senator Barack Obama both have one thing in common: a white parent. Bob Marley's father was British and white; Senator Barack Obama's mother was American and white.

Bob Marley was the "first superstar from the Third World" to gain international fame, fans, fortune and acclaim.

In fact, his 1979 LP entitled "Exodus" has been acclaimed as the "album of the century" and both Time Magazine and the British Broadcasting Company (BBC) have designated his song "One Love" as the "Song of the Century".

Time had this to say about Bob Marley's "Exodus "LP: "every song is a class, from the messages of love to the anthems of revolution. But more than that, the album is a nexus, drawing inspiration from the Third World and then giving voice to it the world over".

Bob Marley is indeed the "entertainer of the century". Bob Marley not only took reggae music and its message to Europe, America, Asia and Africa but more importantly, Marley, the man, transcended race and class.

Bob Marley had the charisma and racial hue to draw thousand of young white Americans and Europeans, mainly women, to his countless sell-out concerts. This writer hypothesizes that Bob Marley's white-looking , youthful, physical appearance served as the magnetic force to attrack the multitudes of young white female patrons to his shows --- his slow, rhythmic inspiring reggae music notwithstanding.

Put another way, it might have been in the subconscious payche of these White-European patrons that they were in musical- cultural communion with one of their own. They internalized that they were in-tuned with a white artiste. They felt one with Bob Marley on stage during his concerts.

A white-looking Bob Marley was their musical- cultural comfort zone. And this comfort zone was further ossified by Bob Marley's international lyrics. The white-European audiences totally identified with Bob Marley's lyrics. They understood and felt his "positive vibration" up close and personal because they knew what "Babylon" meant; they knew of a "Trench Town" ghetto in America and Europe; they all yearned for "One Love" among humanity; and they expressed these sentiments outwardly by growing dreadlocks themselves.

Senator Barack Obama's run for the United States presidency mirrored Bob Marley's iconic musical – cultured legacy. Like Bob Marley, Senator Barack Obama was also able to woe thousands of young white Americans, mainly females, to work for his election. Like Bob Marley, these young American females saw Barack Obama as one of them. Obama's campaign experience was their political comfort zone a la Bob Marley's concerts.

Like Bob Marley, young white Americans totally identified with Obama's message about their future. They felt Obama's "positive vibration." Like Bob Marley, Obama's youthful, white –looking, physical appearance was the magnetic force to draw young white Americans to his side. They not only saw themselves in his political mirror but also clothed themselves in his rock star persona a la Bob Marley.

In addition, Bob Marley's lyrics spoke to revolutionary change in society between the "Haves" and "Have nots" and exhorted the oppressed/ marginalized to "get up, stand up; stand up for your rights".

Similarly, Senator Barack Obama's campaign lyrics/ rhetoric spoke to " change " in America after eight years of President George Bush's failed domestic economic and foreign policies.

Bob Marley and Senator Barack Obama were extremely successful and on target in this endeavor – "Change We Need".

In the final analysis, the common denominator between Bob Marley and President- elect Barack Obama is that they both give " the poor a voice the world over". Only " Time will tell" whether or not as the 44th President Barack Obama will emerge as United States President of the century.

If he were to achieve this unique goal/milestone, then, President Barack Obama will not only usher in "a new dawn of American leadership" at home, but, more importantly, he would have also sown the seeds of a new image of love, hope, respect and admiration for America around the world.

Dr. Kwame Namtambu is Professor Ementus, Kent State University.

Damn SD

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Why the black always gotta die First

They should have put Jazz from Transformers in here!

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He needs his Ass whooped

Peer Punishment

Here's my quick rant for the day..

I've come to the realization that people will make assumptions and punish you throughout your life. Regardless of how malleable you try to be, people will always find something to hold against you. Most people are guilty for finding "flaws" in a person due to their insecurities or shortcomings. For instance, take a blonde hair young lady, what's the first thing people associate blondes with? Dumbness for immature purposes. Only kid in a family, he or she has to be a selfish individual, right? An educated black man with baggy clothes, no need for me to go down that road tonight. Next, take an obese person walking into a room. Automatically, people are going to think that they are pathetic human beings, and don't have the capability to do "normal" things for themselves. Take a physically fit young man walking into a room, most will think that he's a jock, and doesn't have the mental capacity as most of his counterparts. The person who's reserved and appears to be socially challenged will be perceived as unfriendly, or something suspicious will be thought about them. How about a person that's financially stable, and doesn't appear to be in need of anything. You think that they receive the same thoughtful gifts as a person that is less fortunate. As a result of the persons hard work and determination, he or she will receive the short of the stick unless they are dealing with someone that is equal, financially. What about the person that doesn't smoke or drink, well they must be a religious freak, therefore, they couldn't dare be the life of the party. Single with no kids, or kids out of wedlock, you can fill in the blank for that one, because I'm sure that you have been guilty of making an assumption. It's really unfortunate that when we try to make sense of something that is unfamiliar with us that we often choose the most extreme option; when most of the time it's the complete opposite of what we are thinking. My conclusion is that people are always trying to level the playing field (life) and in doing so, they have to find an imperfections through their perceived "reality".

It really happened. It happened in AMERICA!

I never thought in my time that I would see this day!

Ouch!

BWAHAHA

I know it's just Chili...

Did our next president say, "nah we straight". I love it! On another note, something personable strikes me about O'bama. I feel as if I could walk up to him, without secret service putting one in my head, and have a comfortable conversation about anything.

What's wrong with Ye?

Rapper Kanye West has revealed that he would like to pose nude one day to “break every rule…of Hip Hop.”

The rapper reasoned that that he wanted to challenge the norms of American and African American mores.

“I definitely feel, like, in the next however many years, if I work out for two months, that I’ll pose naked. I [want to] break every rule and mentality of hip-hop, of black culture, of American culture,” he said in the February issue of Vibe magazine.

This wouldn’t be the first time a well-known rapper has stripped his clothing off.

Brooklyn icon Big Daddy Kane posed partially nude in a June 1991 issue of Playgirl magazine, the female lifestyle magazine and counterpart to Playboy. He also pushed the boundaries - and generated controversy among purists - when he did a risqué three-way photo shoot with Madonna and super model Naomi Campbell. The images appeared in Madonna's "Sex" book in 1992.

Kanye West continues to break standard with his latest offering, 808s & Heartbreaks, where he crooned most of the album with the help of Autotune software

He stated that there is a decidedly double standard as it pertains to Hip-Hop acts and himself.

“If she wanted to pose naked, you’d be like, ‘Oh, that’s Bjork.’ But if I wanted to pose naked, people would draw all type of things into it,” he said.

Say What!

Katy Perry and Travis McCoy Split



Posted 01/02/2009 12:13 PM by Celebuzz

Flynet
Celebuzz has learned that bombshell Katy Perry has split with Gym Class Heroes singer Travis McCoy, after a holiday in Mexico and a tumultuous New Year's Eve.

The reported two-year relationship between the musicians came to an end this week despite the pair spending Christmas downtime on the beach, reading and drinking on the sand.

"It's a hardship, but she's regrouping," a source tells Celebuzz. The split likely came to a head just before 2009's arrival.

Perry hosted Gridlock New Year's Eve, a bash held on the Paramount Pictures lot in Hollywood, attended by the likes of Family Guy creator Seth MacFarlane and actor Matt Dallas.

While 24-year-old Perry roused the crowd with chants of ""Happy f--king New Year, everyone," McCoy took to his personal blog with some highly critical poetry for the lady in his life.

"We fight every night, now that's not kosher. I reminisce with bliss of when we was closer. And wake up to be greeted by an argument again, You act like you're ten," the 27-year-old writes.

McCoy is a close collaborator with Fall Out Boy and godfather to Pete Wentz and Ashlee Simpson's son Bronx Mowgli.

"My friends always tell me how I'm lucky to possess the best looking girl in the whole U.S.," the blog continued, "...it seems like just two years back when we were bonded and not pierced, but now I keep itchin' to jet."

"I do not comment on Katy's personal life," said Heidi Anne-Noel, a label rep for Perry. Emails to a McCoy spokesperson were not returned.

After his first post, Travis followed up with a sentiment of love for his own computer, saying, "My Laptop is my new !*@@+. LOYAL. LISTENS. and NEVER LET'S ME DOWN."

Only a week ago, the couple were rumored to be engaged. The NY Daily News had said McCoy proposed to the "I Kissed A Girl," singer in Paris.

Perry cleared up the speculation on her blog, saying: "Not engaged! But thanks for the free press New York Daily News!"

In June, People magazine reported that McCoy had presented Perry with a promise ring, as well as a matching silver band for himself with the word Katy inscribed.

Perry will kick off her first world tour in Seattle on January 23, while McCoy continues to appear with Heroes, next slated for a concert in Nashville, Tennessee, this Tuesday.

Update: McCoy's blog post containing a narrative about a defunct relationship are in fact the lyrics to Main Source's "Looking at the Front Door."

Consequently, I wouldn't touch her though after reading Travis's blog. I know there's always two sides to every story, but I'm going to pass judgement and say that everything he wrote was true.

Happy Belated New Years

I was going to do a 2008 wrap up post and a New Years Day post, but I didn't. Therefore that means 1. I started the year off productive, or 2. I've been lazy to end and begin the New Year.